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When I first set out to rebuild my life, I did what most of us do—I followed the blueprint laid out by others. As a young adult, I built the foundation of my life on the shaky ground of societal expectations, trauma, and shame.
Where that got me was in a body that was unhealthy, and a mind that was full of doubt, shame, and even some self-loathing. I was constantly seeking someone to tell me I was doing a good job or tell me in some way I was valuable so I could feel good for just a moment.
I had habits with food and wellness that kept both my mind and body in survival mode, making me reactive and exhaustive most of the time. Joy felt elusive, and laughter was getting harder and harder to find.
On paper my life looked good, I had everything I ever wanted, I thought I was doing the “right” thing by chasing what others told me was what I should do and what success looked like on the outside looking in. But over time, something felt deeply off.
When I decided to step out and create a life on my terms, which included starting my own business, I was forced to realize that the same unstable foundation I had been living on for years was not going to support this next chapter in my life. No matter how hard I worked, my old habits and thoughts would take over and control of actions. The shame I carried constantly rocked me, making me question my worth and whether I deserved the life I dreamed of. Every time I felt unworthy, I struggled even more to take action. It became clear that I couldn’t build my dream life on this shaky foundation.
Overcoming Shame and Rebuilding
I finally had to come to terms with the fact that I needed help, this was the hardest part, as a hyper-independent woman who struggled to even admit anything was wrong, getting help was something I told myself for a long time was not something I needed.
I could do it on my own. I just needed to get over myself and stop being so dramatic
And I tried again and again, but things got really bad, looking at my kids and saw that I was not the mom I wanted to be for them, I was not being the mom I knew they deserved, I looked at them and said, how much longer am I going to do this to them. I didn’t believe I deserved to be better, but I knew they deserved me to be better. I found help and learned a lot over the next few years.
To move forward, I had to face an uncomfortable truth: my thoughts and beliefs about myself, the ones that formed my foundation needed to be completely destroyed. It wasn’t easy—it was messy, painful, and often overwhelming. But in tearing down what no longer served me, I created the space to rebuild my life from the ground up.
Over the next two years, I began laying a new unshakable foundation. This time, I built it with intention, rooted in self-love and wellness. I redefined what health and success meant for me—on my terms, not anyone else’s. I stopped chasing external validation and started aligning with my values.for
Nutrition Is Crack Finding Tool
I learned really early in my rebuilding that how I nourished my body was key to my success. I knew nutrition supported my mental and physical well-being in very noticeable ways. When I took care of my body I was more calm, joy was easier to find, I didn’t yell as much, my brain fog was gone, and I had more energy.
The best part was I felt more confident and motivated to keep taking action.
When I slipped back into old habits everything would start to become harder again. It was very obvious that the most loving thing I could do for myself was learn how to nourish my body well and figure out why I kept coming back to old habits.
This is when it became really clear how my food choices tied into those old beliefs I had about myself, and how I used food as reward and punishment. I realized that food was how I managed a lot of emotions that were tied to old triggers and emotions that needed to be processed.
Using nutrition I was able to truly dig in to understanding where my excuses and reasons for not eating the right food for my body were coming from. And some of those reasons led me straight to the work I needed to do to rebuild my foundation.
This is why I use nutrition as a powerful tool for supporting you, it will give your a boost to your mental and physical health, and very quickly starts showing us the cracks in our foundation where we need to spend time rebuilding.
Today, the unshakable foundation of my life is solid and I continue to strengthen it through my actions and mindset. It’s built on practices and principles that nourish my body, mind, and soul.
I could not change the place my foundation was built, some things will always stay with me, and there are many amazing gifts my old foundation gave me that I am so grateful for.
This new foundation is solid, it holds me up, no matter the challenges I face. It supports my dreams, my goals, and the life I’m creating.
If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. Many of us start with foundations that don’t reflect who we truly are. But the good news is you can rebuild your life, too.
If you’re ready to stop letting your old thoughts and beliefs keep you stuck and you're ready to start creating a life full of self-love and a deep belief in your worthiness, designed around your values, I’d love to help. Through my Unshakable Foundations sessions, we’ll work together to identify what’s holding you back and create a new foundation that will support you as you pursue your dreams.
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Now is the right time to overcome shame, and release old beliefs because you're ready to start creating your dream life.
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